(essay)

“If you have complexes, then you are not naive.”
— Iryna Bilousova

Complexes can mean anything. Inferiority complex! Messiah complex! Oedipus complex! Some people do not consider themselves beautiful because of their weight, shape of eyes, nose, lips, face, style, blah-blah, blah-blah and once again blah-blah…Others think that all their troubles are due to their character traits. Complexes can also be related to financial status, cultural characteristics and in relation to any aspect of human existence. The main test begins when a person is confronted with a complex that prevents him or her from feeling like a full member of society. Unfortunately, not everyone can fight and suppress obsessions. It is especially difficult for those who are not stress-resistant. Emotions cover them like a huge wave, and they struggle unsuccessfully with negative consequences.

It’s a pity that sometimes you don’t have the strength to fight and you’re just thinking about how to survive this moment called “black hole.” It’s a pity that some people can’t understand you and your problems, as a result – you hide in a shell and keep everything deep because you see that no one will understand or help you…

Yes, everyone says that there are no problems that can’t be solved, but there are problems that trample you in the mud. Emotions that you keep in your heart are like those kept in a can, which is unlikely to open soon. A sort of Pandora Box…

You do not idealize yourself, you get the idea that you do not need to stand still. But here it is important to look at your detachments from a distance and not to consider them as something negative and to use them as a lever that turns the wheel of the self-improvement. It is difficult to attribute one’s inner experiences to the black-and-white palette of colors. This is mostly a reaction to the influence of the environment that conflicts with our thoughts and ideas.

“Yes, I have a certain shortcoming. However, that’s not a bad thing.”

It is very good if you do not deceive yourself and are able to see your own sins and bugs. You have a choice, either to take yourself in hand and start doing something joyfully positive, or to keep on biting yourself from the inside…